Have Roof, Want Sex

From the BBC:

“All I’m asking for is sex in exchange, yeah?”

It’s a Friday evening in central London and I’m sat across the table from a 25-year-old man who is offering to share his east London bedroom with me, rent-free. The catch? I’ll have to have regular sex with him if I want to keep a roof over my head.

He is not the only man offering rent for sex. When I log on to a popular classified adverts website, almost immediately I find dozens of ads offering rooms in exchange for “adult arrangements”.

Isn’t this pretty much a marriage, minus the white dress and expensive ceremony? Oh wait:

“It’ll be fun,” he says. “Trust me.”

Not a marriage, then.

I arrange to meet a number of landlords – and am stunned by the diversity of people I meet. One is just 24 years old, another is offering up his daughter’s bedroom now that she’s at university, and a third says I can stay in a log cabin he built in his back garden – if I’m willing to have sex with him in return. Most of the landlords I meet live alone, but one says he has tenants, and then there’s the guy who lives in a London house share who wants to tell his housemates I’m his girlfriend.

Man provides woman with basic material needs in return for sex. A Pulizter beckons.

The 24-year-old landlord, who I meet in Scotland, says he’s looking for “sex every second day or something” and tells me he is “taking the human aspect out” of sex. “I’m treating it as a business transaction,” he says.

Millenials are so bone idle even Tinder is too much effort.

I’ve portrayed myself to these men as a vulnerable young woman who is struggling financially and has nowhere to go. I’m struck by how nonchalant these landlords appear while asking me to sleep with them in order to keep a roof over my head. They don’t seem to consider how I might be affected by what they’re asking of me.

Why should they? Firstly, you’re a complete stranger selling them a sob-story. Secondly, you can always say no. Thirdly, whatever happened to strong, independent women taking on the world as it is?

In fact, most of the landlords don’t seem to feel they’re doing anything wrong – but Rent For Sex adverts could be illegal. Offering a room in a house in exchange for sex might be classified as incitement into prostitution, which carries a prison sentence of up to seven years in England and Wales.

This assumes any woman accepting accommodation in return for sex is a prostitute. Or, presumably, any woman entering into a mutually beneficial arrangement where she gets material comforts and the man gets sex. We’re back to marriage again, aren’t we?

In fact, when I wrote to the landlords after our meetings to reveal the investigation and ask for their response, only two replied. One said he was looking for a consensual sexual agreement and had done nothing wrong…

A reasonable answer, I think.

But the reality is that the people responding to these adverts are likely to be broke, vulnerable and have nowhere else to go.

So they expect to be accommodated for free by a complete stranger? And supposing some are quite happy to put out in return for three squares a day and a warm bed, even if it is in a log cabin out the back? What business is it of a middle-class SJW? Who made her matron?

I met a young woman who had entered a ‘Rent For Sex’ arrangement when she was 20.

And I wrote an entire book about a young woman who entered a “Passport for Sex” arrangement when she was 21. It’s a handy route to US citizenship, apparently. There’s even a TV show based around the same premise. This isn’t something new.

She didn’t realise what the arrangement was until she moved into the property and realised she’d be sharing a bed with the landlord. She told him she didn’t want to sleep with him, but he would consistently try to touch her. “He didn’t force himself on me, so I am grateful for that.”

She didn’t go to the property during the day and ask “Where’s my room?”

She was homeless before meeting him, and stayed there a long time despite the harassment for fear of becoming homeless again.

Again, what did she expect? Free accommodation?

When I asked the landlord about it, he said he believed the fact she had stayed meant she was not unhappy. He claimed he never asked for or had sexual intercourse with her.

This seems broadly consistent with the girl’s account, does it not? He sounds less like a sexual predator than some sad, lonely old bastard who thought doing a homeless stray a favour would mean she’d sleep with him. Other than pathetically pawing her in the night, he doesn’t seem to have done her much harm.

I confronted a middle-aged landlord who was offering a Rent For Sex arrangement at the Newcastle flat he lives in, alone. Initially, he stormed out of the café where we’d met, but he eventually agreed to talk. He told me he was looking for “companionship”, saying, “it wasn’t just about the sex”.

So the guy is looking for a girlfriend, albeit going about it in a cack-handed way probably because he’s desperate. Is this so bad?

He told me he “didn’t know he was doing anything wrong”. When we explained that a woman staying with him might have felt obliged to have sex, even if she didn’t want to, in order to avoid homelessness, he said he understood that this is a grey area for consent.

Apparently it’s now wrong to do anything for a woman that might make them feel obliged to have sex, even if she’s not in the mood? Married men are in more trouble than I thought.

The landlords I met did not seem to grasp that what they are doing is wrong.

Well, yes. Not everyone shares the values of a chippy middle-class feminist. Sure, some of these men sound like scumbags or weirdos, but you can’t expect the entire world to be handing out free accommodation to waifs who’ve fallen on hard times.

“In our society, it seems acceptable for people to wield their power over the vulnerable in order to get what they want, no questions asked,” explains Ellen Moran of Acorn, a tenants union and anti-poverty group.

Because attractive young women never wield power over men in order to get what they want. Yes, it’s always the men doing the exploiting, isn’t it?

“That power is entrenched and such actions are ignored by law enforcers.”

This woman wants the police to monitor consensual sexual relations.

Her organisation is now campaigning for a change in legislation to make Rent for Sex specifically illegal – possibly under modern slavery laws – so that landlords can be prosecuted.

There are going to be a lot of men in prison if providing accommodation in return for occasional sex becomes a criminal offence. And will women who enter into any such arrangement be charged with prostitution?

Sometimes, though, this happens because people are alienated in their society to such an extent that they crave physical affection without knowing considerate ways to get it. Sometimes it is a mixture of those two things.”

So sad, lonely bastards offer homeless women a roof and a hot shower in return for companionship and, possibly, sex. Unless there is assault or rape going on, what the hell is the problem here? Any man entering into such an arrangement is likely to end up with a far bigger headache than the woman.

“The authorities need to publicly recognise that it is a crime and act on that by prosecuting in order to dissuade perpetrators,” says Moran.

“We need real change in order to solve this problem.”

And here we are, back to the morality of modern feminism: women should utilise their sexual freedoms for any purpose and without restraint, but men should be prosecuted just for trying to exercise their own.

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26 thoughts on “Have Roof, Want Sex

  1. Somebody tell these guys Queen Victoria is dead. if you so much as let your girlfriend keep a spare pair of knickers at your gaff it becomes her gaff. If you try to evict a “tenant” you’re sleeping with she will run to social services and say her boyfriend is trying to make her homeless. This does not end well for you.

  2. Throughout human history, the vast majority of human males died childless.

    Ponder that fact in the context of these betas trying to leverage whatever limited resources they have to get laid.

    Yes it’s pathetic but it’s also consensual. Unless, of course, our feminist protagonist is claiming women have no agency and can’t be allowed to choose their sexual partners. Pick one.

  3. One difference between this arrangement and marriage is that they have to give regular sex, wives don’t.

  4. “We need real change in order to solve this problem.”

    We need to establish if it’s a problem first, don’t we?

  5. Ellen Moran of Acorn

    Get a brain, morans!
    Ahem.

    In our society, it seems acceptable for people to wield their power over the vulnerable

    And there it is, the Marxist BS which is always at the root of these stories: identities being tied to groups, one of which who always has absolute power over the other.

    We need real change in order to solve this problem

    I’m sure May’s “conservatives” will be tripping over themselves to get the laws drafted up.

  6. All the sensible comments above notwithstanding, I suspect this is a thing that doesn’t really happen. After all, the only woman they can find who did enter a “rent for sex” agreement did not have sex with her landlord.

    I’m sure there are a few sad sacks trying this but there’s really no point.

    If you want to exchange rent for sex, let your spare room via Airbnb then spend the profits on hookers.

  7. If you want to exchange rent for sex, let your spare room via Airbnb then spend the profits on hookers.

    Heh! Good point!

  8. Why don’t these people take in vulnerable strays themselves? After all they wouldn’t want anything in return cos they’re saints.
    If they can’t do that then they are condemning penniless waifs to sleep on the streets.

  9. “So sad, lonely bastards offer homeless women a roof and a hot shower in return for companionship and, possibly, sex. Unless there is assault or rape going on, what the hell is the problem here? Any man entering into such an arrangement is likely to end up with a far bigger headache than the woman.”

    Exactly. The biggest headache is the opportunity cost. Think of all the cash these sad bastards are forgoing.

  10. Could not the BBC3 minger build a bit of Polyamory into this tired old story? And some ‘art’ – on the lines of “Two Girls One Cockup”? A trans angle triangle would be tres du jour and more delightfully purient than this priggish projection.
    Just asking.

  11. “In our society, it seems acceptable for people to wield their power over the vulnerable in order to get what they want, no questions asked,”

    It takes a certain amount of chutzpah to type that so soon after Oxfam, no?

    In any event, there is no such thing as a presentable homeless young woman. Providing couches is what the hapless inhabitants of the friendzone are for. (In fact, no. You sleep in my bed, I’ll sleep on the couch.)

  12. Why don’t these people take in vulnerable strays themselves? After all they wouldn’t want anything in return cos they’re saints.
    If they can’t do that then they are condemning penniless waifs to sleep on the streets.

    Quite. I thought this line was revealing:

    They don’t seem to consider how I might be affected by what they’re asking of me.

    She’s viewing the entire situation through her privileged, middle-class SJW eyes rather than those of the sort of women who would genuinely respond to such an advert. Sure she might feel bad to have a man offer her free accommodation in return for sex, but are homeless women really going to be affected by the mere offer?

  13. Providing couches is what the hapless inhabitants of the friendzone are for. (In fact, no. You sleep in my bed, I’ll sleep on the couch.)

    Heh. Reminds me of a time when I was at university. An attractive female student had an ex-boyfriend barge into her dorm room and pass out in her bed, leaving her without a bed for the night. The ex-BF was a nice guy, there was no malice or violence, he was just a piss-head, good lad by all accounts. So the girl in question tapped on the door of another male student, another decent guy, who agreed to let her sleep in his bed while he slept in the armchair. When I heard about this, I remarked to my friend:

    “He slept in the armchair?! What was he thinking? If she’d have knocked on my door, she’d have been told to get in my bed with me still in it!”

    My friend responded:

    “Yeah, that’s probably why she didn’t knock on your door, mate.”

    Incidentally, the guy who slept in the chair and the female student formed a relationship afterwards which I think was still going several years later. They may well have got married. So gentlemanly conduct does pay off, it seems.

  14. The primary difference between these arrangements and marriage is that marriage is supposed to be a sexually exclusive relationship. That requirement helps ensure that the husband is the biological father of his wife’s children.

    These arrangements are just prostitution. A simple quid pro quo and the woman goes away eventually with no strings attached. Exclusivity not expected or required.

  15. Isn’t this like the ever popular “you can appear as a star in my new film if you drop your knickers?”

    Also, the bit that made me wonder is a man who “says he’s looking for “sex every second day or something”

    It would be the ‘something’ that would worry me enormously.

  16. The primary difference between these arrangements and marriage is that marriage is supposed to be a sexually exclusive relationship.

    Yeah, I wasn’t being entirely serious about the marriage part…

  17. Yeah, I wasn’t being entirely serious about the marriage part…

    I figured:-). It’s just one of my hot-button issues, but I try not to be too obnoxious about it.

  18. “…they crave physical affection without knowing considerate ways to get it.”

    Oh fuck off. These men’s considerations are never taken into account when these entitled twats laugh at them and call them creepy when approached at an “acceptable” venue. When Turing-bending sexbots and artificial wombs arrive on the scene these women will be nostalgic for the days when they had the option to be prostitutes.

  19. These men’s considerations are never taken into account when these entitled twats laugh at them and call them creepy when approached at an “acceptable” venue.

    Quite.

  20. An ex colleague of mine lived in a 3 bedroomed house, alone after his wife died, 3 years after his diagnosis of cancer of the prostate. He was approached by a (female) university student about renting one of his rooms, although she was quick to say that she couldn’t afford anything less than a basic rent. He couldn’t perform sexually but still had the desire of looking at, and touching, the female body. A compromise on what additions to the basic, peppercorn, rent was agreed and this continued till the young lady graduated and then accused her landlord of sexual slavery. He committed suicide 3 months later. The young lady went on to a very lucrative career, helped by her history of being a sexual slave. She is probably a CEO of some international company by now, having written the poor, sad, old man out of her memory.

  21. A compromise on what additions to the basic, peppercorn, rent was agreed and this continued till the young lady graduated and then accused her landlord of sexual slavery. He committed suicide 3 months later.

    Lovely. Chalk another one up to what the modern world calls female empowerment.

  22. Why would she be “struck by how nonchalant these landlords appear” after she apparently responded to an ad that read “Bedroom in return for … oral once or twice a week”

  23. Back in the 1990’s I used to work as an IT Contractor for a weird subdivision of the Department of the Environment called Her Majesty’s Inspectorate of Pollution.

    One of the “civvies” was a young lad in his early 30’s who came from a rather affluent middle class background, went to one of the older universities and owned a 2-bed flat in Pimlico.

    His idea of “dating” was to advertise the bedroom for let via a PO Box no. (see written correspondence only) and then filter through the applicants. He had a particular preference for German blondes and used to advertise on the notice boards of the local universities and language schools.

    He used to offer a provisional month before coming up with a full 6-month rental contract “To make sure we can both get along”. Basically if he wasn’t fucking her by the end of the 1st week of the “provisional month” then “it wasn’t working”, at least not for him obviously.

    Now you can accuse him of having a shockingly awful view of women (and he did), but more than anything else he was lazy and didn’t see why he shouldn’t utilise his most valuable asset (his flat) to get him women.

    I met both of the “girlfriends” and they were decent, attractive, intelligent women, so he must have had something going for him other than an absence of morality or character. I think those are against the Civil Service Code anyway.

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