Problematic Personal Preferences

I’ve written before about how dating sites and apps are one of the few remaining places where people are free to discriminate, and gay men appear to be particularly unenlightened. Here’s an article addressing the same thing:

Dating applications can allow users to fall into their own racial biases while searching for a partner, a new study says.

Meaning, people have dating preferences. What a revelation.

But in their study, researchers from schools like Cornell University say the “sexual racism” that plagues apps like Grindr, Tinder and Bumble can be stamped out with a few simple changes.

User preferences can be stamped out by not giving people any choice.

The end goal, the study says, is to promote more diverse pairings on the dating sites.

The ultimate goal of dating sites is miscegenation, eh? And there was me thinking they were there to make money for the owners by giving users a service they want.

Jevan Hutson, lead author of the study, said …“Intimacy is very private, and rightly so, but our private lives have impacts on larger socioeconomic patterns that are systemic.”

Your love lives must contribute towards the greater good of a mixed-race society.

Take the case of Sinakhone Keodara for example. He threatened to sue Grindr, a dating app for gay, bi and trans men, because of “sexual racism” he faced on the site, NBC reported. More specifically, Keodara says some users on the site had captions like “Not interested in Asians.”

So what’s the alternative? You meet with a guy who doesn’t like Asians? How does that end well?

As noted by the study — which compiled data from prior research — white people are ten times more likely to receive a message from a black person on a dating app than they are to message the black user themselves. That suggests a hierarchy of attention on racial lines.

Okay, but we can add that to the long list of other factors in the hierarchy of attention: height, beauty, wealth, intelligence, social status, breast size, hair colour, sense of humour, etc.

The study found other examples of inequalty in dating apps, including:

Asian men and black women have the lowest chance of receiving a message or a response.

Right, but are these people living in majority white countries? It would seem odd indeed if Asian men in China or black women in Nigeria weren’t getting many responses , but in the US or UK? What do they expect?

White people of “all ages” prefer to go on dates with other white people.

Isn’t this true generally of all races?

College students are most likely to avoid going on dates with black women.

Does this include black male college students? If so, maybe someone could ask them why?

Stephanie Yeboah, a blogger, said that she has experienced racism as a black woman on online dating apps even when people are open to meeting up, according to The Independent. She said that some people ask offensive questions like if they can “get a taste of jungle fever” — and say they want to see if black women are “as aggressive in bed as they’ve heard.”

Well, yes. Manners and politeness tend to disappear altogether when strangers communicate electronically while hiding their true identity. Take a look at Twitter, for example. This isn’t unique to dating apps.

“Comments such as these are extremely dehumanizing to myself and other black women who are only looking for companionship,” she told The Independent. “It seems to suggest that black women are only good for one thing, and cites back to previous ideologies of black people being compared to primates; as primal and feral, hyper-sexualized creatures. It’s very hurtful.”

To be honest, I’m surprised more black women don’t feel that way after watching a rap video.

The study’s authors noted that OK Cupid itself experimented with pairing up users and saying they were “highly compatible” — even though they weren’t considered good matches — and found that the conversation between the two people often went well.

And if it didn’t? Well, that terrible date you’ve just been on is the result of an experiment you were unwittingly forced to take part in. How the hell is this ethical?

In other words, it appeared that just the mere suggestion that two people were compatible made both users more likely to give the connection a chance.

Anyone who’s used online dating sites will tell you the compatibility ratings are a load of nonsense.

The study’s authors wrote in a press release that it proves “the strong power of suggestion” that can be used to bridge the gap between people of different races.

Why is this even desirable?

Another potential solution could come from 9Monsters, a gay dating app from Japan, that allows people to describe themselves without explicitly revealing their race, according to the study’s authors.

Another gay dating app, called Hornet, prevents people from using their profile to mention race at all.

This might work well for pen-pals, but I’m not sure it’ll work for people who eventually want to have sex with one another. It’s just delaying the inevitable to a point where time and effort have been expended.

The study’s authors concede that sexual racism is a hard thing to conquer — but Keodara, who threatened to sue Grindr, said fixing the problem would improve the mental well-being of people of color looking for a chance at love on dating apps, according to The Guardian.

So we should treat people of colour as mentally-ill and unable to navigate dating preferences? Could this be any more patronising?

“Over the years I’ve had some pretty harrowing experiences,” Keodara told The Guardian. “You run across these profiles that say ‘no Asians’ or ‘I’m not attracted to Asians’. Seeing that all the time is grating; it affects your self-esteem.”

Imagine how short, bald men have felt for decades.

This whole nonsense about sexual racism is the illogical endpoint of anti-discrimination laws which force people to associate with those they’d rather avoid. Give it a few years and there’ll be legislation being passed forbidding you from not dating in a state-approved manner. I kid, but not by much.

Incidentally, I’ve seen a few articles and tweets here and there which suggest one of the freest web forums is the one on Pr0nHub, simply because busybodies and the perpetually offended would never contemplate using the site. You think people just talk about sex on there? Think again:

One day we’ll all be Pr0nHub users, sneaking under the ever-pinging radar of the SJWs roving overhead.

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30 thoughts on “Problematic Personal Preferences

  1. Given that most dating apps and sites require photos I am not sure how changing okcupid’s match percentage would have… well… any impact whatsoever on racial preference in the way they seem to believe.

    It seems the actual finding from okcupid is that people of different races have lower match % scores with each other than with their same race, hence why okcupid had to manually increase match %s to make people from different races talk. This is something that would be very interesting to explore further rather than the usual NPC SJW vomit.

  2. To be honest, I’m surprised more black women don’t feel that way after watching a rap video.

    So, being caled bitch and ho by black men, perfectly OK, being regarded as hot stuff by white men degrading?

    OK, I’m being sarcastic, actually I know how this works. An off white woman dating a white man expects the deference white women get from white men, while a white man dating an off white woman expects to be able to treat her like the off white men do. Hilarity ensues.

    Oblong,
    rule 34 bro, rule 34.

  3. The end goal, the study says, is to promote more diverse pairings on the dating sites.

    Going against your customers’ wishes and preference is a great way to make money.

    it affects your self-esteem

    You are on a dating website, so you can’t have much anyway.

  4. “Intimacy is very private, and rightly so, but our private lives have impacts on larger socioeconomic patterns that are systemic.”

    Would it be OK to go on a dating site and specify “No pop sociologists”?

  5. Wouldn’t almost all men on a gay japanese dating sight be …japanese? I thought foreigners made up, like 1% of the population. Surely it’s pretty obvious?
    ‘hmmm I’m not sure about this profile of Haruto_Ishida who enjoys “nihonshu, fillial piety, Bubblegum Crisis. Yonde kurete arigato!” Oh wait, it doesn’t actually *say* he is asian… I really only go for swedish men with their bork bork. Man, I am going to be *so mad* if this dude isn’t a scandi…’

  6. Even I cannot tell myself who to feel sexually attracted to, and who to fall in love with.

  7. Someone famous once said that the facts of life are conservative. I suspect this moment of PC madness is a temporary anomaly and normal service will be resumed at some point.

  8. Wouldn’t almost all men on a gay japanese dating sight be …japanese? I thought foreigners made up, like 1% of the population. Surely it’s pretty obvious?

    Yeah, I wondered about that. Can’t imagine too many blonde Swedes hanging out on Japan’s Grindr.

  9. “Okay, but we can add that to the long list of other factors in the hierarchy of attention: height, beauty, wealth, intelligence, social status, breast size, hair colour, sense of humour, etc.”

    .. whether or not they have the desired type of.. plumbing.

    As I pondered elsewhere when Sinakhone Keodara first came up with his idiotic idea for suing Grindr: “who would be suing him for preferring penises on his sexual conquests, and who is he to have a preference against vaginas?”

  10. You touched on something I’ve wondered about for a while. If ‘mixed race’ pairings (of course, there’s No Such Thing as race, but bear with me) become the norm, then eventually we’ll all be sort of Tiger Woods colored. Then what happens to diversity?

    Shouldn’t progressives be against miscegenation?

  11. .. whether or not they have the desired type of.. plumbing.

    And, indeed, whether said plumbing is natural or, er, “tailor-made”?

  12. but our private lives have impacts on larger socioeconomic patterns that are systemic

    I’ve seen this logic before.

    “But even if appellee’s activity be local and though it may not be regarded as commerce, it may still, whatever its nature, be reached by Congress if it exerts a substantial economic effect on interstate commerce and this irrespective of whether such effect is what might at some earlier time have been defined as ‘direct’ or ‘indirect.'”

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wickard_v._Filburn

    Wickard vs. Filburn.

  13. Then what happens to diversity?

    Shouldn’t progressives be against miscegenation?

    That’s a point I often wonder about. The worship of “diversity” can only result in homogeneity if taken to its logical extreme. Either all groups will peacefully merge in to one, uniform, blob, or one group will dominate and enslave or exterminate the others. In either case, diversity ceases to exist.

    If you would maintain diversity, you must embrace segregation.

  14. Stalin never did anything as totalitarian as this. Once our nations are no longer white majority, the full horror of this system will be unveiled. This is why #MeToo and all of it exists: they want to make unmediated romantic relations illegal. THEY, tech, will tell you who to date. It should be obvious: we are living in a Revenge of the Nerds nightmare.

  15. Could the solution to our disappointed Asian friend be glory-holes and a coloured French-tickler? He might need to stand on a box if he is typically short.

  16. “…eventually we’ll all be sort of Tiger Woods colored. Then what happens to diversity? Shouldn’t progressives be against miscegenation?”

    Diversity is only a means to an end – the abolition of whitey by importing breeders and encouraging racial miscegenation.

    “If you would maintain diversity, you must embrace segregation.”

    We have a form of segration – multiculturalism.

  17. BiG

    And, indeed, whether said plumbing is natural or, er, “tailor-made”?

    Be careful or you might find NiV waving his micro-penis around here!

  18. These people genuinely believe there is no problem which cannot be improved by the coercive authority of the state, don’t they?

  19. @ Tim

    “Imagine how short, bald men have felt for decades.”

    I’m trying to, like trying to really hard, but I just can’t.

  20. The UK government plans to legislate for pr0n-filters on internet connections, though they’re still unsure how to implement it. France has similar plans, and I believe the EU does too, though I’m at work and I’m not going to google it. Foreign-registered sites would ignore UK laws, so content filtering is likely to be enforced at ISP-level.

    It’s already self-imposed by mobile phone providers in the UK, who ask you to type in your passport number or driving licence number to unlock access to age-restricted content. (According to a friend.)

    Free speech will always be found in user comments below articles, so expect a clampdown on those over the next decade. China already requires real-name identification for social networks; other governments are looking on with envy.

  21. “Comments such as these are extremely dehumanizing to myself and other black women who are only looking for companionship”

    Hey this is weird I went to a swingers party and people wanted to have anonymous sex, then I went to a Chinese take-away and they thought I wanted to buy a Chinese meal.

    I’m sorry what the hell is a dating site/app for but people looking for romantic relationships and/or sex? Who the hell is looking only for companionship and who is complaining about going on a dating site and finding that horror of horrors people are interested in dating?

  22. eventually we’ll all be sort of Tiger Woods colored. Then what happens to diversity? Shouldn’t progressives be against miscegenation?

    One trope in current vogue in fantasy and similar genre media is Good Guy cosmopolitan societies full of every distinct (human) race imaginable all living in perfect harmony for thousands of years, with tons of interracial pairings, marriages and relationships. I have friends who are totes convinced that their Great Fantasy Novel will get published any minute now and make them the next Patrick Rothfuss.

    When I point out that the fact that separate races existing side by side for thousands of years has to mean a hardcore policy of anti-miscegenation being enforced somewhere, they get very sputtery and handwavy. A Wizard Did It is often invoked.

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