It’s no secret that there are so many incredible single women in the world. We’re smart, funny and basically total catches…
According to whom?
so where are all the great guys?
With women who posses some sense of self-awareness?
The real reason so many of us are still rolling solo is much simpler: most guys aren’t worth dating.
Right, but what about the guys who are worth dating? Oddly, they’re not interested in you.
We have so much to offer a potential partner and the world at large — we’re strong, ambitious and totally self-sufficient.
Erm yeah, men aren’t interested in that.
Meanwhile, guys seem to have thrown chivalry and romance out the window…
Around the same time ladylike behaviour disappeared.
…and assume they can get away with the bare minimum. No thanks — they can take that laziness elsewhere.
They do, they take it to Tinder where, if the reports I’ve read are correct, such laziness is no obstacle to a guy getting 90% of what he wants from a date: sex.
Sure, we could have a relationship if we were willing to look the other way when immature liars and players pull their crap with us, but why should we? We’ve seen all the same stuff and heard all the same excuses time and time again and we respect ourselves too much to accept them for the sake of being in a relationship. We’d much rather be on our own.
I’m glad you’re not bitter or anything.
Since we know our worth, we won’t accept anything less than what we deserve from guys.
You’re worth only what someone else is willing to part with for you. If that’s a quick meal in a Harvester’s on a wet Tuesday evening where you split the bill, so be it.
They need to be on our level in every sense of the word and if they’re not prepared to do that, we’re not prepared to date them.
By definition, the guys in your dating pool are on your level. Those guys who you won’t date you are by definition above your level.
Part of the problem with modern dating is that guys think all it takes to move on to the next woman is a quick right swipe on their phone screens.
Which it does, but go on.
Ghosting and benching are par for the course, but if so we much as get a glimpse of loser tendencies, we’re out of there before he can open Tinder.
So you want to tackle flakiness by being even flakier? Dump before you’re dumped, kind of thing. Which I get, but it’s a little out of whack with your contention that you’re all great catches, no?
We’ve got busy careers, amazing friends, loving families and passions to pursue. Our schedules are booked solid.
Well, yes. When you’re single, you’ve got to fill your lonely evenings and weekends with something. Although it’s more often meaningless crap like “travelling” when you’re a single woman, rather than amazing friends and loving families.
That means if we’re making room for a guy, he’d better bring something new and worthwhile to the table.
Because nothing is more important than a Wednesday lunchtime body-pump class.
If he’s just looking to get laid or wants to “hang out” until he figures out what he wants to do with his life, he can go elsewhere.
As if men just looking to get laid make demands on a woman’s time. About half an hour normally suffices, does it not?
That doesn’t mean all of us are averse to eventually getting married, but we don’t wake up every day wondering if it’ll be the day that our Prince Charming comes to sweep us off our feet. We don’t need to walk down the aisle to feel as though we’ve reached the pinnacle of womanhood — it’s not the 195os anymore and we’re as committed to our own happiness and excellence as we could ever be to a guy.
Ah yes, a chap called Aesop wrote about this mindset once.
Thanks to feminism and our ability not only to work but to take on positions of leadership in our careers, women are now able to provide ourselves all the benefits husbands used to provide us. We don’t need a guy to spoil us or buy us a house — we’ve got that locked down already.
So this is the main purpose of a woman getting married in the eyes of modern feminists, is it? Being bought a house?
We don’t even need a husband for kids; if we really want to become mothers, there are ways to achieve that without having to tie the knot with someone we’ll just end u divorcing a few years later.
So single motherhood is fun now?
We’re not going to dumb ourselves down or play off our goals and accomplishments as no big deal when we’ve worked our ass off to get where we are. Too many guys can’t handle being with a woman who won’t just sit back and be quiet.
Ah yes, the Kate Mulvey excuse for being single her whole life: I’m just too clever and intimidating.
Those cat merchants are going to be retiring at 45 to sit on their yachts drinking pink gins, aren’t they?