This is actually pretty good:
Here are 6 things young women need to know about their future lives
1. By the time you hit 30, the likelihood of your deciding that marriage and family—not career—is the most important thing in your life is astronomically high.
2. Whom you choose to marry, not which career you choose, is the single most important decision you’ll ever make.
3. The quality of your marriage will have more effect on your happiness and well-being than anything else in life.
4. Divorce doesn’t solve problems—it creates new ones.
Probably true in many cases, possibly even most. There will be exceptions, though. If your husband is kicking the shit out of you, it’s probably best you don’t stick around. And this:
getting divorced will likely ruin you financially
If only that were true of women, we’d probably see a lot fewer divorces.
5. If you remarry, rest assured your new husband will have just as many warts as the first.
Yup. As someone wrote in a review of my book: “as you get older everyone has baggage. The key is whether people with different backgrounds can justify their decisions and create a compatible relationship”.
6. There are things you can do to strengthen your marriage so it doesn’t crash and burn.
A relationship takes work, particularly communication and compromise. A lot of people I’ve met don’t seem to understand this.
Trying to be a big shot powerhouse and still be a sane, loving and engaged wife and mother is futile. Those two worlds don’t intersect—they collide. They are in direct competition with one another, as Indra K. Nooyi, CEO of PepsiCo, courageously admitted in 2014.
I recently listened to a Freakonomics podcast with Indra Nooyi, and she came across very well. She appears, at least to me, to be a genuinely successful female CEO and deserving of the post, not one just parachuted in to please the diversity department. Whereas this:
I’m a proud husband: My wife made partner. (top row in the middle).https://t.co/D4BNxX5C8x
— John Podhoretz (@jpodhoretz) February 12, 2018
Each to his own, but I’d be a lot prouder if my partner’s promotion didn’t come about as a result of a gender parity pledge. If I was a woman who genuinely deserved to be elevated to partner, I’d be absolutely livid at this.
Anyway, back to the list. Can you imagine what a list of 6 things young women need to know about their future lives would look like if it were compiled by the BBC, Guardian, or Laurie Penny? It would pretty much fisk itself. That’s why I found this lady’s post rather refreshing:
And finally, because at the end of the day it is our relationships, not our jobs, that matter most.