{"id":9954,"date":"2019-08-09T11:53:36","date_gmt":"2019-08-09T09:53:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/?p=9954"},"modified":"2019-08-09T11:53:36","modified_gmt":"2019-08-09T09:53:36","slug":"polykilla","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/9954\/","title":{"rendered":"Polykilla"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I was in the US a couple of mass shootings took place, one in El Paso, Texas and the other in Dayton, Ohio. I really couldn’t be bothered reading the commentary on either of them because there have been enough of these lately to know exactly what everyone’s going say anyway. But a Twitter follower alerted<\/a> me to this factoid regarding Connor Betts, the perpetrator of the Dayton murders<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Connor and I kept our relationship on the down-low due to the polyamorous nature of it. I was engaged to another man while dating Connor, and all parties involved knew about the situation.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I don’t think there’s much data to suggest that polyamorists go around massacring innocents with firearms; murdering beauty standards is more their shtick. But we should hardly be surprised that a mentally unstable individual such as Betts should be attracted to polyamory. The question that remains is whether the additional strain of the relationship tipped him over the edge.<\/p>\n

Incidentally, this passage sheds some light on the standards polyamorists adhere to when dating:<\/p>\n

A couple of drinks later, Connor asked me if I saw the video of the synagogue shooting. As someone who makes a point to never watch those videos, I hadn\u2019t. So, he pulled out his phone and I was too drunk to care that I was watching it. Thankfully the bar was too loud for me to hear what was going on. Connor gave me the play-by-play of what was happening. Even then, I did realize that that was a weird thing for a first date, but not too weird given the context of our class.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If a normal person was on a date with a bloke who pulled out a video of the synagogue massacre she’d be out of there in a flash, returning home to delete her Tinder account and spend the next month contemplating her life choices. But if you’re a polyamorist you’ll not think it anything too much out of the ordinary. Remember folks, they’re normal people.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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