{"id":8704,"date":"2018-12-05T11:32:16","date_gmt":"2018-12-05T10:32:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/?p=8704"},"modified":"2018-12-05T11:32:16","modified_gmt":"2018-12-05T10:32:16","slug":"for-every-action-theres-a-reaction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/8704\/","title":{"rendered":"For every action there&#8217;s a reaction"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A couple of weeks back, in the context of a professor who&#8217;d been <a href=\"https:\/\/www.chronicle.com\/article\/Dispute-Over-Lingerie-\/245094\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">reprimanded<\/a> over a lame joke in a lift which upset a vinegar-drinking feminist, I said <a href=\"https:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/8616\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>If this keeps up, segregated workplaces will look like an increasingly attractive proposition. At the very least, sensible men will avoid certain women at all costs \u2013 and certain companies.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>A few days ago, several readers alerted me to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bloomberg.com\/news\/articles\/2018-12-03\/a-wall-street-rule-for-the-metoo-era-avoid-women-at-all-cost\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this article<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Call it the Pence Effect, after U.S. Vice President Mike Pence, who has said he avoids dining alone with any woman other than his wife. In finance, the overarching impact can be, in essence, gender segregation.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Well, yes. As I&#8217;ve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/5847\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">mentioned before<\/a>, the logical solution to the alleged problem that women are routinely sexually harassed at work by men is segregation of the sexes. And if men are placed in a situation whereby they can have their livelihoods ruined by a mere allegation from a woman, this segregation will be self-imposed.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Now, more than a year into the #MeToo movement &#8212; with its devastating revelations of harassment and abuse in Hollywood, Silicon Valley and beyond &#8212; Wall Street risks becoming more of a boy\u2019s club, rather than less of one.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So women demanded to work alongside men, then complained about how men behaved around them, and are now complaining men are avoiding them. I&#8217;m beginning to think there&#8217;s a grain of truth in some of those stereotypes.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cWomen are grasping for ideas on how to deal with it, because it is affecting our careers,\u201d said Karen Elinski, president of the Financial Women\u2019s Association and a senior vice president at Wells Fargo &amp; Co. \u201cIt\u2019s a real loss.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Having allowed the issue of women in the workplace to be hijacked by lunatic feminists bent on poisoning relations between the sexes, ordinary women are now finding their careers are suffering. Maybe they should have policed their own ranks a little better?<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>There\u2019s a danger, too, for companies that fail to squash the isolating backlash and don\u2019t take steps to have top managers be open about the issue and make it safe for everyone to discuss it, said Stephen Zweig, an employment attorney with FordHarrison.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf men avoid working or traveling with women alone, or stop mentoring women for fear of being accused of sexual harassment,\u201d he said, \u201cthose men are going to back out of a sexual harassment complaint and right into a sex discrimination complaint.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>For the SJWs pushing this insanity, this is a feature not a bug. Their aim is to hold arbitrary power over men such that, no matter what they do or don&#8217;t do, their lives can be destroyed.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>For obvious reasons, few will talk openly about the issue. Privately, though, many of the men interviewed acknowledged they\u2019re channeling Pence, saying how uneasy they are about being alone with female colleagues, particularly youthful or attractive ones, fearful of the rumor mill or of, as one put it, the potential liability.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Men aren&#8217;t stupid, and they will create strategies which enable them to politely go through the motions with female colleagues <em>just<\/em> enough to avoid a discrimination suit, but otherwise keep their distance. Men are very good at doing this with men they don&#8217;t like, so it won&#8217;t be too hard to do it with women. For example:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>A manager in infrastructure investing said he won\u2019t meet with female employees in rooms without windows anymore; he also keeps his distance in elevators. A late-40-something in private equity said he has a new rule, established on the advice of his wife, an attorney: no business dinner with a woman 35 or younger.<\/p>\n<p>The changes can be subtle but insidious, with a woman, say, excluded from casual after-work drinks, leaving male colleagues to bond, or having what should be a private meeting with a boss with the door left wide open.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There are as many or more men who are responding in quite different ways. One, an investment adviser who manages about 100 employees, said he briefly reconsidered having one-on-one meetings with junior women. He thought about leaving his office door open, or inviting a third person into the room.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>This amused, however:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Finally, he landed on the solution: \u201cJust try not to be an asshole.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s pretty much the bottom line, said Ron Biscardi, chief executive officer of Context Capital Partners. \u201cIt\u2019s really not that hard.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Oh, you think being <em>nice<\/em> is going to protect you? Sure, not being an asshole will stand you in good stead with 99% of female employees, but as the article says:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cSome men have voiced concerns to me that a false accusation is what they fear,\u201d said Zweig, the lawyer. \u201cThese men fear what they cannot control.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So they&#8217;ll take back control. Instead of having formal events the men will just meet for drinks independently, inviting a few like-minded chaps from other firms around to dispel any charge they&#8217;re at a works function.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>In this charged environment, the question is how the response to #MeToo might actually end up hurting women\u2019s progress. Given the male dominance in Wall Street\u2019s top jobs, one of the most pressing consequences for women is the loss of male mentors who can help them climb the ladder.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Oh dear. It turns out a movement accusing men of sexual harassment en masse has some drawbacks. Who would have thought?<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cAdvancement typically requires that someone at a senior level knows your work, gives you opportunities and is willing to champion you within the firm. It\u2019s hard for a relationship like that to develop if the senior person is unwilling to spend one-on-one time with a more junior person.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I brought this up in my latest podcast. In practice, career progression is made by one-on-one brown-nosing, which is often harder for women to do than men for precisely the reason it may be misconstrued. The answer is to stop using this as a method of personal advancement.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Men have to step up, she said, and \u201cnot let fear be a barrier.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>That ship sailed so long ago it&#8217;s circumnavigated the globe and is nudging us in the back. Over to you, ladies.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A couple of weeks back, in the context of a professor who&#8217;d been reprimanded over a lame joke in a lift which upset a vinegar-drinking feminist, I said this: If this keeps up, segregated workplaces will look like an increasingly &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/8704\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[57,111,79],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8704"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8704"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8704\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8706,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8704\/revisions\/8706"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.desertsun.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}