The Price of Feminism

Well well well:

Prof Marcia Inhorn, Professor of Anthopolgy at Yale University, said professional women found themselves losing out in a game of “musical chairs” because there were simply too few men of the same calibre to go around.

Experts said “terrifying” demographic shifts had created a “deficit” of educated men and a growing problem of “leftover” professional women, with female graduates vastly outnumbering males in in many countries.

“There is a major gap – they are literally missing men. There are not enough college graduates for them. In simple terms, this is about an oversupply of educated women,” she said.

“These are highly educated, very successful women and one after another they were saying they couldn’t find a partner. How could it be that all these amazing, attractive intelligent women were lamenting about their ability to find a partner?” she said.

“The answer comes in the demographics – growing disparities in the education levels of men and women.

In short: women prefer men who are more educated than them, but as women are slowly becoming the more educated sex they are finding fewer educated men to partner up with. What to do?

The anthropologist suggested some women might need to be prepared to compromise some of their standards in order to find love.

One of the primary reasons middle-aged women are single is because they have an unrealistic idea of the sort of man they can attract. If you could solve this problem you’d not be writing newspaper columns, you’d be drinking gin on your mega-yacht. Fun though Sex in the City was, it ought not to be viewed as a documentary.

But she suggested society should act to increase the number of men going into higher education.

How’s that going to square with the relentless campaigns to put more women in the ranks of corporate management? As I said here, it is these very policies which are putting men off higher education and corporate life in the first place.

“It may be about rethinking the way we approach this,” she said.

“Most women who are educated would like to have an educated partner. Traditionally women have also wanted to ‘marry up’ to go for someone more successful, financially well off.”

“Maybe women need to be prepared to be more open to the idea of a relationship with someone not as educated.

Quite. I think it’s high time educated, intelligent women learned to love the slow-witted manual labourer just as us men are encouraged to love the ageing fatty.

Tell me, oh modern, non-shallow, non-materialistic woman: just what is wrong with you, a high-flying corporate lawyer, dating a builder? Aren’t we past all that gender role stuff in 2017? My pal Smiffy is dying to meet you, he’s the one over there with the cement stuck in his eyebrows.

Some women were paying a high price for feminism, she suggested.

You think? If only someone had warned them.

“As a feminist I think it’s great that women are doing so well but I think there has been a cost that has been paid,” she said, warning that many had been left in “sadness and isolation”.

Makes you wonder how many knew the costs before they were cajoled into it by the sisterhood, doesn’t it?

In some cases, the women taking part in the in-depth interviews said they would be happy to be in a relationship with someone less educated, but they felt they were “intimidating” to the men who were available.

So modern women, having quite deliberately positioned themselves to out-compete men in every field, now find they intimidate men. What did they think would happen?

About a year ago I met a corporate high-flyer here in Paris, a well-educated, smart Frenchwoman who was also rather attractive. She was single, and explained a lot of men were so put off by her lofty status in a giant, well-known corporation that she was reluctant to tell them what she did. I assumed this was down to some innate desire of men to be of higher status than their partner, but once I got to know her I changed my mind on that. Basically, the character traits required to gain the high ranks of a modern corporation are not the ones a man wants to see in a partner, i.e. a ball-breaker.

This might be as much about men being turned off by the personalities of high-flying women as women not wanting to date less-educated men. I suspect it is both, working simultaneously.

(H/T Tim Worstall)

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20 thoughts on “The Price of Feminism

  1. You’re being unfair to Smiffy, plenty of manual workers are pretty smart guys. Unfortunately an averagely intelligent woman with a college education thinks she’s better than an above averagely intelligent man without one.

  2. The issue that I’m increasingly seeing with this perpetuation of victimhood/identity politics is that folks are happy to take the good stuff when their lot is offered a package deal by society, but are blind about the downsides.

    Here it’s the realisation that having made certain life choices (career over everything) limits the options in finding a partner (and doesn’t this also apply in some form to blokes?). On the news this morning it was the Grenfell survivors, bemoaning the fact it takes longer than an episode of EastEnders to find a permanent family home (for free!) in one of the busiest locations on the planet.

    The mook they had on R4 was aghast that it may take a few months to find a place that he liked after his old one burnt down. Now, I’ve always viewed a significant cost of social housing (to the individual) as being that you lose the ability to pick and choose the finer points of your domicile- if it’s free or heftily subsidised you take what you get. This chap was having none of it. He wants a great pad, ideally located for him and his family.

    And of course the Beeb were listening and nodding sympathetically, as opposed to saying “What the fuck do you expect?”.

  3. “because there were simply too few men of the same calibre to go around.” It depends what you mean by calibre.

    You’re discussing the right half of the IQ distribution. Because men certainly have a higher standard deviation, and perhaps have a higher mean, then the shortage of “calibre” – if you mean IQ – applies to women, not to men.

    The authors, however, are referring not to ability but to educational credentials. Men, I suppose, have on average less of a taste for going to uni and taking Grievance Studies degrees. Can’t say I blame them. The solution may be to ensure that men who don’t want to waste money or time on bogus Higher Education leave secondary school with a decent level of education. The Forces of Progress have spent decades trying to prohibit archaic nonsense like that.

  4. You’re being unfair to Smiffy, plenty of manual workers are pretty smart guys.

    Indeed.

    Unfortunately an averagely intelligent woman with a college education thinks she’s better than an above averagely intelligent man without one.

    Yup. One of things I’ve noticed about white-collar workers of average intelligence is how smart they think they are.

  5. The issue that I’m increasingly seeing with this perpetuation of victimhood/identity politics is that folks are happy to take the good stuff when their lot is offered a package deal by society, but are blind about the downsides.

    Exactly.

  6. The authors, however, are referring not to ability but to educational credentials. Men, I suppose, have on average less of a taste for going to uni and taking Grievance Studies degrees. Can’t say I blame them. The solution may be to ensure that men who don’t want to waste money or time on bogus Higher Education leave secondary school with a decent level of education. The Forces of Progress have spent decades trying to prohibit archaic nonsense like that.

    Spot on.

  7. Due to the fact I am no longer a spring chicken (cough), I am meeting more and more women who are on their second-time around.

    What a lovely bunch I seem to have run into. Truly.

    Divorced (mainly) or widowed, over 50, even over 60 and looking for and giving friendship and more when reciprocated (so I hear). Relaxed, laid-back, undemanding, fun even!!!… Not a ball-breaker among them.

    They learnt something along the way?

    Or are they merely undercover, as one divorced friend found out on the third outing? Maybe that was merely the exception that proves…?

  8. “Makes you wonder how many knew the costs before they were cajoled into it by the sisterhood, doesn’t it?”

    The problem with feminism is that like all other branches of socialist ideology (including the current state of religion) is that it just believes in free stuff. And this is biting women in the arse.

    Men aren’t going to marry women until they have to? Well, who pushed for all the incentives to change that caused this? Who pushed for unmarried sluts to get priority for council houses over married couples? For “no fault divorce” where the wife gets everything? For every bit of war being declared against men, which politicians have supinely agreed to.

    You get married, you’d better be sure she isn’t a bitch, because you are not going to get well-treated if she isn’t. No-one is on your side.

  9. As I commented on TW’s blog, I’ve known a number of single women that reached their 40s facing a life of solitary confinement and who subsequently married someone they’d have kicked into touch a decade earlier. The men they married were of a similar disposition. The marriages were all successful. In truth all the men I’m thinking of had previous marriages under their belt and had learned their lesson. Of course I also have friends who are on number four.

  10. There’s a manism problem older than the feminism problem.
    You hook up with a girl with great tits and ass. A few years later her tits are round her navel and her arse is falling off.
    Worse, your kids have inherited her brains not yours.

    Social mobility. It has to work both ways otherwise it’s not mobile.

  11. It’s a sorry comment on the present state of the education system that investigation into the reason for under-performance of male pupils is only now being encouraged because it may be inadvertently negatively impacting females.

    Maybe ff the playing field was level it would be easier for women to spot men without having to look downwards.

  12. BiLH
    +1
    BTW
    Can we have fewer blokes please. I think I was the first on TW’s blog, indicating that I was just a bloke, not an expert.
    Now they are everywhere on the interwebs. But a bit of imagination for your monicker?

  13. They learnt something along the way?

    Yeah, reality dawns on all of them eventually, but it’s a long and painful process for many.

  14. As I commented on TW’s blog, I’ve known a number of single women that reached their 40s facing a life of solitary confinement and who subsequently married someone they’d have kicked into touch a decade earlier.

    Yeah, as bilbaoboy says, they wise up eventually. Most middle-aged women have no idea what their dating pool is, and when they put their toe in they are shocked by what they find and react with indignation as if they’re being insulted. Eventually some of them accept this is the choice in front of them and pick one; the rest buy cats.

  15. Person from Porchester

    Fellow from Farnham

    Chap from Chiswick

    Liar from Liverpool

    Clot from Clevelly

    Terrorist from Tehran

    Liberal from Lahore

    Winker from Washington

    Nitwit from New York

    Braggart from Boston

  16. @Bernie G. I know a woman in her mid 40s who is not just with someone she would have kicked into touch a decade ago but someone she actually kicked into touch 2 decades ago!

  17. I know a woman in her mid 40s who is not just with someone she would have kicked into touch a decade ago but someone she actually kicked into touch 2 decades ago!

    Oof. Not sure my sense of self-respect would ever allow that to happen to me.

  18. Women prefer to marry up – or, at least, not to marry too far down in terms of both class and IQ. Feminism hasn’t changed that. But I suggest a simpler model, hugely stylized but involving neither class nor feminism. Along the lines of dearieme’s comment, suppose that all women have an IQ close to 100 but 51% of men have IQs close to 120 while the other 49% are at 80. Feminism or no feminism, about half the women would be doomed to celibacy. Of course this society would try to fix the mismatch problem. I can think of at least three ways, but I suspect the sexually frustrated low-IQ males would rebel against any outcome that leaves them without a partner.

  19. Problem with modern day marriages/partnerships is that in the old days, the man worked and wife stayed at home. Now it takes two incomes to pay the mortgage, they both have jobs. In the old days, if he gets a promotion which involves a big move to another area, not necessarily a problem. Now, if he needs to go to Boston for his promotion, she protests that her career is in New York and she does not want to move. Perfectly fair, but because they now have good careers, a conflict arises. Don’t ask me how you solve it.

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