Commentator David Moore has posted this link underneath my previous article on Madonna:
This month, the singer covers the latest issue of Harper’s Bazaar, in which she talks about her out-of-the-ordinary lifestyle, touring the globe and dating much-younger men
I’ve created a very unconventional family. I have lovers who are three decades younger than me. This makes people very uncomfortable. I feel like everything I do makes people feel really uncomfortable,” she said.
No, it doesn’t make people feel uncomfortable. What it does is attract commentary, some of which might be unflattering, and some of which might consist of speculation as to your overall happiness despite your wealth, fame, and fortune.
Most recently, those ‘lovers’ included 25-year-old model Aboubakar Soumahoro. In 2014, she dated now-29-year-old back-up dancer Timor Steffens, and she famously dated Brazilian model Jesus Luz, who was 29 years her junior, from 2008 to 2010.
While people have always had much to say about her younger lovers, though, there isn’t usually as much buzz about men who date much-younger women. In fact, Madonna said, she faces a lot of criticism and commentary for things that men do without comments from the outside.
Firstly, let’s just dispel a myth. Everyone is aware that wealthy, famous men can attract women much younger than them, many of whom are very good looking. However, nobody thinks this is something especially noteworthy other than the fact that young women are often attracted by money and fame in a way that young men are usually not. Although men might give the occasional grunt of approval towards famous men who serially date much younger women, the practice is hardly universally admired, let alone seen as something to be emulated. To use a contemporary example, for all of Trump’s womanising he seems to be on good terms with his ex-wife and children and has been married to his current, ex-model wife for 11 years. Men will always admire a guy who settles with a beautiful woman and starts a family more than they will a perpetual bed-hopper.
Secondly, any older guy who hooks up with a young, beautiful foreign girl always stands accused of being used for a passport, especially if she is from an altogether different culture. The same applies to women. Aboubakar Soumahoro is from the Ivory Coast. Timor Steffens is born in the Netherlands of Moroccan origin. Jesus Luz is Brazilian, as the article says. What you don’t see is high-profile American male celebrities dating exotic foreigners who may need money and a passport. What you do see is wealthy but ageing European women dating exotic young men in places like Egypt and Gambia who turn out to be interested in a residency visa, cash, and not much else. Madonna is of course free to date whom she likes, but people are also free to draw their own conclusions and those conclusions aren’t all that different when the situation applies to men.
Speaking about why she continues to work into her 50s, Madonna said: “It’s inexplicable; it’s like breathing, and I can’t imagine not doing it.
“That is one of the arguments I would get into with my ex-husband, who used to say to me, ‘But why do you have to do this again? Why do you have to make another record? Why do you have to go on tour? Why do you have to make a movie?’ And I’m like, ‘Why do I have to explain myself?’ I feel like that’s a very sexist thing to say.”
Perhaps he just wanted to spend more time with you, and didn’t like you being away? Then you called him sexist, went and did whatever the hell you wanted, and now you’re divorced and dating a string of foreign kids.
“Does somebody ask Steven Spielberg why he’s still making movies?”
Yes, ever since Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.
Hasn’t he had enough success? Hasn’t he made enough money? Hasn’t he made a name for himself? Did somebody go to Pablo Picasso and say, ‘Okay, you’re 80 years old. Haven’t you painted enough paintings?’ No. I’m so tired of that question.”
It’s a reasonable question to ask though, isn’t it? I mean it’s just a question, and nobody is disputing her answer. And I imagine the wives of Spielberg and Picasso did ask them whether they didn’t fancy taking it easy for a while and spending more time at home, and one would hope they had an adult discussion about it rather than an argument that ends in accusations of sexism, divorce, and lingering bitterness.
“I’m political. I believe in freedom of expression, I don’t believe in censorship,’ she said. ‘I believe in equal rights for all people. And I believe women should own their sexuality and sexual expression. I don’t believe there’s a certain age where you can’t say and feel and be who you want to be.”
Then thank heavens you were born in the modern United States and thus have enjoyed such freedoms your entire life.
She often speaks out about this issue. In 2016, she took to Instagram to decry ageism after she met criticism for a very revealing dress at the Met Gala.
Madonna, dear: being free to do what you want is not the same as being free from criticism of your wardrobe choices for high-profile events.
“When it comes to Women’s rights we are still in the dark ages,” she wrote on Instagram at the time.
She either doesn’t know much about women’s rights or she doesn’t know much about the Dark Ages. Or both.
“My dress at the Met Ball was a political statement as well as a fashion statement. The fact that people actually believe a woman is not allowed to express her sexuality and be adventurous past a certain age is proof that we still live in an age-ist and sexist society.
Nobody is saying you cannot express your sexuality. You can do whatever you please, and indeed you do just that. What you cannot do is make, by your own admission, a political statement and expect to be free from criticism.
I have never thought in a limited way and I’m not going to start. We cannot effect change unless we are willing to take risks By being fearless and By taking the road leas traveled by.
Wearing a certain dress to a celebrity ball is being fearless, is it? And turning up in risqué outfits is “the road less traveled” in celebrity circles? Really?
Thats how we change history.
Another one talking up her own legacy. Leave that to others to decide, eh?
If you have a problem with the way I dress it is simply a reflection of your prejudice. I’m not afraid to pave the way for all the girls behind me.
As the David Moore says in his comment: it all comes across as rather desperate.