I’m going to use an example provided by Natalia Antonova, who I’ve written about before, to illustrate something which is rather common among feminist writers. Meaning, I’m not necessarily picking on Antonova, but – like Laurie Penny who does much the same thing – she’s a rich source of readily-available examples of various points I’m trying to make about modern feminists. Consider this Tweet:
Of course. It couldn’t be that you are denying the viscous and degrading ways your sisters focus on men they know are easy targets and already hated by society.
— Jesse Austin Wright (@jessewrights87) April 25, 2018
The context is a little hard to explain, but it comes as part of a discussion kicked off by Antonova’s rather bizarre claim that “men and boys are owed women and it leads to violence”. That in itself ought to reveal something of the mindset of the woman and the movement she typifies, but her response to the above tweet is where it really gets interesting:
At 25, I was violently raped by a man who came off as both nerdy and kind. I’d been attracted to him. I was in love with his intelligence, the sparkle of his eyes behind his glasses. I never imagined he could hurt me. Tell me about being an easy target again, bruh. https://t.co/teORozi2J3
— Natalia Antonova (@NataliaAntonova) April 25, 2018
Firstly, I have no idea how that remark serves as a response to Jesse Austin Wright’s tweet. I just don’t see how one follows the other, but maybe that’s just me. But let’s consider what Antonova is doing here. She’s bringing up her violent rape in order to win a rather petty point during a lengthy Twitter argument. Note she’s not bringing it up in any context related to rape, it’s part of a discussion on the position of nerds in society. She’s using her victim status to elevate her moral standing in the argument to a height against which Wright can’t compete. I mean, what kind of monster would continue arguing with someone who’d been violently raped, right?
This is something I’ve noticed about women who champion the MeToo movement and talk about “rape culture” in the US and UK: they often use their ordeals to given them moral authority, often on subjects which are wholly unrelated. There is nothing wrong with sharing their experience as a way of dealing with the ordeal or trying to ensure others don’t suffer the same treatment, but this is often not what happens. Instead, their being raped or sexually assaulted is wielded like a trump card, to be deployed whenever they are losing an argument or wish to further some crackpot feminist theory.
Without wanting to engage in amateur online psychiatry, you might want to consider the mentality of someone acting in this manner, particularly if they’ve put themselves forward as a mouthpiece of a movement demanding sweeping social changes which will in all likelihood make you worse off. As I said, Antonova’s behaviour is depressingly common among feminists caught up in the MeToo movement; it’s why they should be ignored, or urged to seek help.