Swiped Out

There’s a trial underway in Auckland involving the murder of an Englishwoman at the hands of an Australian man whose name is suppressed by a New Zealand judge who may not realise the internet is global:

British backpacker Grace Millane died after being strangled by a man she met on a Tinder date, who later buried her body in a shallow grave, the Crown says.

Grace and the accused met on Tinder and went to a number of central city bars and eateries that night.

The pair were “plainly comfortable” in each other’s company and Grace had messaged her friend saying so, McCoubrey said.

CCTV footage captured from the Bluestone Room bar showed the pair kissing.

“She was plainly enjoying the date, at that stage … there’s clear evidence that both parties probably anticipated sexual activity,” McCoubrey said.

So she was travelling alone in a foreign country, met a total stranger online, went to his apartment to have sex, and wound up dead. Did she find hugging crocodiles in the Northern Territory a little too sensible, or what?

This blog’s resident Kiwi David Moore points us towards this related article:

A witness who wept after being told she would have to return to the High Court in Auckland will continue giving evidence on Tuesday in the trial of the man accused of murdering Grace Millane.

The witness told the court on Monday how the 27 year-old accused of murdering Grace sat on her face as she performed a sex act on him, inside his apartment in November 2018.

The Crown says Grace was murdered about a month later in the same room.

Okay.

On Monday the witness, who has name suppression, said she had drinks with the accused at his apartment in CityLife Hotel, after the pair connected on the dating app Tinder.

Hey, let’s go to some random bloke’s hotel room, what could possibly go wrong?

Giving evidence by CCTV, she told Crown prosecutor Brian Dickey the accused said he loved her and wanted to be with her.

“He grabbed my arm and I said: ‘We’re not having sex’.”

Then why go to his apartment?

The pair moved to the bed and she performed a sex act on him before he sat on top of her.

Because the natural response of someone who declares “we’re not having sex” is to perform a sex act on the chap she’s just yelled at.

The witness said she exchanged messages with the accused in the days following the incident but decided not to mention the suffocating episode because she didn’t want to aggravate him.

Unless she’s exchanging messages with him while they’re sat in the same room, this is a level of imbecility impressive even for the antipodes.

Under cross-examination from the accused’s lawyer, Ron Mansfield, she was asked why she exchanged over 700 messages with the accused, in the month following the sex act.

She told Mansfield she was leading the accused on and was scared that if she cut him off, he was going to turn up in her life.

I’m beginning to think those mullahs may have a point about letting women out on their own. Perhaps this is why Jacinda Ardern was encouraging Kiwi women to adopt the burkha a while back?

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13 thoughts on “Swiped Out

  1. Before we all…
    Let’s remember that this stuff is newsworthy because it’s rare. So rare that something that happened on the other side of the world makes it to the British media.

  2. “Let’s remember that this stuff is newsworthy because it’s rare.”

    It’s newsworthy because Grace was a young, attractive, middle class white girl and there are plenty of people who want to read about it, along with a lot of photos and CCTV content that makes it a better story.

    Murders like this are relatively rare, however this one gets a lot more coverage because of those factors. A lot of these cases are not covered.

    ” So rare that something that happened on the other side of the world makes it to the British media.”

    It’s a British girl murdered on the other side of the world. That makes it a lot more newsworthy for the British media. They didn’t cover all the rape gangs under their noses because they were the wrong kind of girls and the wrong kind of rapists.

  3. “Because the natural response of someone who declares “we’re not having sex” is to perform a sex act on the chap she’s just yelled at.”

    While it’s tragic given Grace’s murder, I can’t help find this rather funny. The old ‘no mean’s no’ message being lost yet again. Perhaps it is just Bill Clinton’s impact on western society?

    Family Guy…take it away…

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RRhhewFqyw

  4. I wasn’t going to comment but decided to after noticing that there are four consecutive tampon ads between the last comment and the form. For what it’s worth, that’s me comment.

  5. The witness said she exchanged [700] messages with the accused in the days following the incident but decided not to mention the suffocating episode because she didn’t want to aggravate him.

    “I had fun, but really didn’t like being suffocated by your grundel. I’m sure you understand.”

    How difficult was it to send that as message #701? Or is this mansplaining and a threat to women’s independent empowerment?

  6. Sounds like the two girls got mixed up with a psychopath. One didn’t survive, the other was being controlled by him. It’s very sad, but shit happens.

  7. I’m beginning to think those mullahs may have a point about letting women out on their own.

    Islam is right about women.

    the other was being controlled by him

    Don’t make excuses for female stupidity, hypergamy and hybristophilia.

  8. “So she was travelling alone in a foreign country, met a total stranger online, went to his apartment to have sex, and wound up dead. Did she find hugging crocodiles in the Northern Territory a little too sensible, or what?

    Going for the Quote Of The Month award too, I see… 🙂

  9. So does this guy have huge rippling muscles and is hung like a donkey?

    What else makes women so bloody stupid?

  10. Ah, the allure of bad boys. It can end badly, but I suppose the possibility of danger is part of the appeal.

    In evolutionary terms, I guess a preference for bad boys evolved because having the biggest badass in your caveman tribe father your kids would help their chances of survival.

  11. Trial reporting from the Times – the deceased had a track record of enjoying erotic asphyxia. As the Times says, “The female friend of Ms Millane said that she “liked the rugby player type of look” in a man and “enjoyed” her partner putting hands around her neck, as well as bondage discipline and sadomasochism (BDSM) and rough sex.”

    She’d apparently put away a lot of alcohol, which may have been an issue (especially if both of them had been imbibing) in both reducing her ability to realise “safeword time”, or his ability to recognise it or realise there was a problem.

    And, drunken panic is one thing, but “Ambulance! Ambulance! She’s not breathing!” is a much better look than disposing of the body and hoping nobody notices…

    No joy or satisfaction in one life accidentally ended and another smacked hard (even if the defendant’s acquitted, he’s still accidentally killed someone…) but it does remind that sometimes, “risky” behaviour actually does carry real… y’know… risks…

  12. Guilty of Murder, and past history now revealed suggests he had pretty serious mental health issues.

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